![]() Thus far he has only seen Suzanne’s anger, and he is stunned to learn that she had been flooded with fear when her water broke. Eddie sits in solemn silence, clearly surprised at hearing this part of the story. Suzanne is crying hard now, with visible pain on her face. I needed him there in case the worst were to happen.” “I needed to know he understood the gravity of the moment, and that he was going to be there for me. Then I called Eddie…I needed his help…” Suzanne whispers, tears beginning to spill out of her eyes. She lives close by, so it was easy for her to come right over. “I knew I had to move quickly…I thought about calling an ambulance, but got my mom on the line instead. Suzanne: “When my water broke, I thought, “This can’t be right…we still have two weeks until the due date…” I thought something must be wrong with me, or with the baby…I was terrified,” she says. She moves from raging blame into something more vulnerable–fear and sadness. Encouraged, she tells me more, and her tone begins to slowly change. ![]() I listen and try to understand her perspective, intentionally validating the logic behind her anger. As she looks away from Eddie, I ask her to tell me more about the anger. Suzanne is red-faced and silent, seething with anger. I don’t know why you keep screaming at me for taking care of everything!” It’s not like the baby was born without me! I helped you through that labor just like we planned, and it all worked out just fine. I knew there was enough time to get it done and then join you at the hospital. You should be ashamed of yourself,” she fumes.Įddie responds defensively: “I was in the middle of the most important meeting of the year! I would’ve risked losing a major deal, and anyway, the labor was just starting. Suzanne turns to Eddie and angrily says: “How dare you carry on with your meeting when you knew I was going into labor! You acted like nothing was more important than that stupid meeting, not even your wife and child. She has remained distant and upset with him since the event. ![]() Although they were delighted to welcome their child, and were soon able to return home without complication, Suzanne was cold towards Eddie throughout the process. She delivered a healthy baby, and remained in the hospital for extra monitoring after a difficult delivery. Several hours later, Eddie arrived at the hospital room to find Suzanne in the throes of labor, with her mother supporting her. He calmly told her that he had an important meeting in twenty minutes, and that he would join them once it was finished. Suzanne told Eddie to meet them at the hospital as soon as he could. She immediately phoned Eddie to let him know, and to tell him that her mother was with her. She recalls being shocked and worried at how soon the pre-labor began. She tells me about how Eddie was at his office when her water broke and labor began two weeks ahead of her due date. ![]() As we begin to discuss this distressing experience, Suzanne’s anger becomes more intense. The event has caused a lot of fighting between them, and they have not been able to work through it. Suzanne and Eddie* came to couples counseling seeking support to work through a painful event that occurred a year ago with the arrival of their first child.
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